OMG. Is this real? Did this really happen? Gosh look at this ring at my finger. He proposed and I said YES. We’re gonna get married.
Where do I start? I got to do everything now. I’m gonna hop over to Pinterest and pin everything. Or shall I look for a location first? a dress? A date? A place?
Hell this feels like we’re never gonna get married. There is just SO much to do…
These were exactly the thoughts I had right after I got engaged. I stumbled from the happy all over phase into the omg I need two lifes to organize everything phase.
And I wished someone would have told me what to start with or how not freak out about too many options.
Now after getting married myself and attending all the weddings of my couples, I just want to assist all the future brides to be.
So here I go with my experience and my tips on what to do after your engagement.
At least try to. Your engagement is such a pretty thing which should not be replaced by fear or anxiousness.
think about what you like and what you don’t like, together
Get a clear idea of what you and your fiancé (isn’t this the best thing that you can call your partner like this from now on?!) like most and what really makes you happy. The goal is to find out more about your perfect day. The things someone else does or likes, are not supposed to be the same things you both like. And since it is your wedding, go for whatever the two of you like.
make a list of to all the do’s to get an overview
Write down all the things you need to get organized like location, photographer, decoration, dress, rings, cake (list to be continued for as long as you wish for). When we write down the things we have to do, they are not blinking in our thoughts anymore. You don’t need to think of your to do list permanently from now onwards. You need a plan and this is how you work off all the different points on the list.
reach out to vendors
Yes, there are vendors who are already booked out way in advance. And no it’s not your fault and you will find your partners nonetheless. Even when a venue is already booked out, they might know of another one who is similar and get you their details. Contact the people you really wanna work with, which have the same style and the same ideas like you. Check out Instagram and some hashtags to find your vendors. For example if you look for a light and airy dress, go check out the #bohobride or look for #fashionbride. Talk to people whose weddings you really liked and ask for recommendations. Have a look on wedding blogs such as Hochzeitsguide who feature vendors all over Europe. Trust your intuition and the feeling you have when you get to know someone. Ask all the questions you need to get answered to make sure you’re teaming up with the right ones.
find inspiration (but don’t get lost)
I love Pinterest and long before Pinterest was invented I had my own real pinboards at home with all these images cut off from magazines. I also use Pinterest for business reasons (click here for my boards) and I love getting new ideas and finding inspiration from all over the world. But, there is a real big but. Don’t get lost within all of this inspiration. Assumingly you only have one wedding to organize and Pinterest will offer you ideas for 928281 different kinds of weddings. So make sure you know what you want before heading there and pinning everything. Get a certain style your wedding should have and look for ideas within this style. The vintage decoration will not match the natural and fine art wedding and vice versa. So only start pinning when you’re know what you’re looking for. Otherwise you’ll get lost in the Pinterest labyrinth.
listen to your heart and enjoy
You’re gonna get married because of your two hearts in love with each other, so don’t forget about this reason during all the preparation going on. Listen to your heart, enjoy this special time in your life and just relax. There is no law how your wedding needs to be planned or done. It is just up to you. I loved the feeling of being engaged and could have imagined staying engaged a year longer before getting married. We also had issues finding the right location and right before we found our place, we already decided to postpone the wedding for one year, to make sure we’ll love it and have more fun on planning. We found our venue and loved it, but it would not have been bad for anyone to wait another year.
So, these are my tips for you and I hope that some of you will be thankful for hearing my experiences and my thoughts on planning your wedding.
Oh and I guess it is needless to say, that I’ll be happy to not only be your wedding photographer, but also assisting you personally all the way through this special time.
And now, let’s get married!